$1,170,000 net worth (Age 41)

$1,170,000 net worth (Age 41)

“Avoidance” - A couple, Samantha (36) and Kevin (41), who have been together for seven years but have kept their finances almost entirely separate. Kevin is a high earner with $800,000 in investments, a paid-down mortgage on a home he solely owns, and earns $221,000 annually. Samantha earns $148,000 in sales but carries $78,000 in student loans and $30,000 in car debt, with barely any savings or investments. Their combined net worth (89th percentile for their age) is $1.17 million with assets of $652,500, investments of $883,300, savings of $23,300, and total debt of $389,000. Kevin pays the entire mortgage while they split utilities and groceries 50/50. Samantha stopped paying rent years ago, reasoning that since Kevin owns the house and would get all the equity, the money is better spent on her own savings though she hasn’t been consistently paying down debt either.
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  “I just don’t feel like a good or worthy partner... I feel like even if I saved a million dollars, that wouldn’t be good enough for you. And he was like, ‘Well, if it was a million dollars,’ which is supposed to be funny, but to me, I’m like, ‘Oh, man. Is that the line? Millions of dollars? I will never hit that.’ It feels more important that we have the experience than I have the money.”

 

TAKE-AWAY: high income cannot compensate for poor communication and avoidance in relationships. When both partners are conflict-avoidant and operate on unspoken assumptions rather than clear agreements, resentment builds silently.

 

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